Brains for Bacon

As I send off yet another payment to an educational institution I begin to think that my brain is becoming worth quite a bit of money. I looked at it how I look at my house, new furnace, new roof, better landscaping, and the house goes up in value.

So is my brain the same? Sort of. The more money I put into it the more education I get the more letters I put behind my name the more valuable I am.  The higher paying job I am eligible for. What a crazy concept. But when we look at it that way then we have to take the whole picture into perspective.

I weed my garden, I vacuum my carpets, I change my furnace filter. So what must I do to protect my most valuable asset. It all comes back to healthy eating, exercising, and just using it. Taking opportunities to put it to work. This may just be why I am what I refer to is a forever learner, since I was 4 years old I have been in some form of educational institution. I am about ready to be done, but then what? Career growth and putting all that value to use.

All of our brains are worth something and regardless of what money you have actually put out, you can make it more valuable by filling it with good stuff. Amazing to think that it is an upgrade that comes at no cost, the information is out there, you just have to get it in there and use those neurons to digest it.

Turn your unique and powerful asset into the most valuable tool you own!!

Too busy to think!!

Do you ever get so busy that you don’t even have time to think? It is like one thing after another and then another thing just creeps up to piggy back the last. It really is mind sucking when more than one thing happens at a time.

It is like life has to make sure you are paying attention.

I have a crazy way of dealing with things and it really has not been effective on many occasions, yet I use it and it works. That last sentence sounds like an oxi-moron. Let me explain. I have agreed to only think of one thing at a time. I get a message from a coworker about what time we are suppose to meet the next morning and my answer is: I haven’t got to that part of my list of things to think about yet. ONE THING AT A TIME!

Really when there are so many things swimming around in there it is best to put them in priority order. Now the part of it that makes it less effective is that I really don’t have much to offer others, unless they want to know about anything at the top of the list or where I currently am on my list of things to think about. Anything beyond that- your guess is as good as mine. Where it works is for me. I am able to sort things in priority order quite efficiently, and am very organized in that sense. The things on my list get the attention they need before I move to the next. I am usually early for appointments and meet my goals on time. This is coming from a mother who has a full time career, started and finished my degree part time, while running a business and what I call “farming” butterflies.  Needless to say, my brain has many drawers with plenty of items with many lists of priority.

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What made me think of this blog post, is I really have not had much to post to it. Unfortunately the kinds of thoughts that work into blog posts seem to get shoved to the bottom of the list as Dr’s appointments, bank appointments, work stuff, and just general life stuff go to the top.

But wait a minute!!! I am a multi-tasker to the max!! Which actually contradicts everything I just said, but no entirely. I am a “one thing at a time multi-tasker.” I think that needs some explaining too. The thing is that nothing takes up much time in my head so I move on to the next thing with a bit of an overlap from the last. The multi-tasking comes as the transition. Sometimes two things sit on the same line of importance. Mostly because there is not enough time in a day to fit them all in, so even though it is one thing at a time it can be two running simultaneously important and do-able at the same time.

That is how my busy head copes with this crazy world of happenings. What do you do to cope with life flying in and out as quickly as it does?

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I HATE HUGS!

No I don’t. I am not a “hugger.” It is often said in my presence, “oh right you are not a hugger, you hate hugs.” I began to tell myself, that’s right. Then I got thinking about it. I love hugs. I need hugs.

So why am I labelled so? Well I think I figured it out and it goes along with another one of my theories. I need hugs, and I need them for a purpose. I need them to feel secure and to take off some pressures of stress. I need to give them to tell people I am there for them in difficult times, or as a term of endearment when they have something exciting or sad happening to them. I don’t need hugs to say hello and goodbye, nor do I feel it necessary to give hugs for this purpose, although many of my friends are “huggers.”

So, my theory is this: the more you do something the less valuable it becomes. If you are getting a hug from me or I ask you for one, it has purpose and value. If there is that moment when the only thing you can think to do for me is give me a hug, then it is worth something. It is super important in that moment. It is not that I hate hugs, it is that I save them for when I need them in order to give them more meaning and value.

It matches my make up theory of, how do you every dress up if you wear make up all the time?

I do not in anyway think that my “hugger” friends have it all wrong, they just use hugs in a different way than I do and that is just fine.

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The Undelivery

There is some level of self fulfillment in the undelivered letter.

When someone steals space in your head and there are a thousand things you want to say or explain, but the risk of saying them out loud out weighs the benefits. Perhaps the things you must say would take a relationship to a place that you are not ready for, or the things you have to say may damage other relationships that you are not willing to risk. It is difficult when you want to be open an honest all the time, but sometimes it just isn’t worth it. Then those thoughts or the anger behind those thoughts steal time in your head that could be better used for other things.

Write the letter, write the letter with every intent to send. Do not hold back on what you want to say or even worry about how it may sound. When the letter is complete you have a decision to make, to send or not to send. Maybe even the answer is tuck it in a drawer until the time comes to send.

The thing about words, once they are out of our heads and into others, they can not be taken back. So, write the letter, get them out of your head and then later decided when it is time to hit the send button (because let’s face it- who uses paper) or when if it becomes time hit the delete or rip away. The self fulfillment in the undelivered letter is to get the thoughts out of your head and for some reason that sometimes is enough. Just knowing that you could put it into words sometimes is better than the delivery.

Kill them with….

This is another one of those quotes that rings in my head whenever I am faced with an issue that involves a difficult person. “Kill them with kindness.” Oh how it works on so many levels!!

I learned this one early in my career, which is too many years ago to even attempt the shocking math equation. I began working in an environment with mostly women (and still am in a job with a predominant woman population). I also had to deal with clients who are always right, no matter what I think. So I learned quickly that kindness goes a long way. It isn’t hard for me as I am by nature a kind person, but there are always those moments, and especially those people that make you dig deeper to find it within.

Here is how and why it works (in my opinion). First of all, people who are not being kind do not know how to respond to someone who is being kind to their unkindness, after all their actions where for a purpose and a reaction. The utter confusion on their face when the exact opposite response smacks them in the face is priceless. Being mean to a kind person just makes you look like more of an a-hole, it is so easy to be mean to a meany, but being mean to someone who is always so kind, well that my friend is a new low. Being kind also allows you to feel better, you don’t have to worry about apologies or crossing lines with your anger. If your reaction is pure kindness you are standing on both feet and able to think straighter, sometimes a bit slower, but straighter. It is like the real life hovering thumbs face to face. You know the moment when you get that text and your thumbs hover over what you want to say, but then you rethink it and decide to go another route. When all is said and done the she-said-she-said of it all you always come out on top!

BUT!!! Sometimes there are those moments where you just can’t take it and you SNAP!! People stop and they look and they assess that the situation must be really bad if someone so kind acted in such a way. So again it works in your favour, but can not be over used or it loses it’s effect.

With all that said it makes me sound like I am a fake, but really after you live the life for awhile it becomes who you are. You learn how to keep the things in your head for a better time, you take pleasure in their powerless attempts to get you down. Your revenge is your own happiness.

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Worst Blogger Ever

They need to make an app that reads my mind and turns it into my blog posts.My intent when creating this blog was to brain dump in the way I use to journal. The brain activity is still happening, it is just the journaling part I need to get in gear with. In a slight defence, my iPad was completely wiped clean and I had to restock all apps. Only a slight defence because I have a laptop that actually is easier to blog on. Since I started this journey I have really enjoyed the blogging community and find others posts to be interesting and a break from the everyday menoteny that all other forms of social media offer. I think the best way is to set blogging goals, or in the way I organize my life rules. The rule is I need to post one brain dump blog…..hmmmm…..a week? Any other advice on how I can stay on top of the wonderful world of blogging??  

I don’t play games

I think about my friends who have come and my friends who have gone. I come to realize that they change like the saying says, with the seasons. Some are evident while others I question….and then I come to the conclusions that, I don’t play games.

I don’t give in to attention seeking, actually it annoys me, if you have something to say to me just say it. If I have done something to offend you or that is bothering you then give it to me, I can probably explain my actions and their intent. I would also like to know because really maybe I am unaware that what I am doing is causing such a reaction.  I would offer you the same service: with what did you mean when, or it hurt my feelings when.

Reality is though, the majority of the  people I surround myself with usually would not do anything to make me even wonder. Then there is that odd individual that acts in a way I do not understand, this is when my own advice does not go both ways. If you are not up front with me and you behave in a way that I do not understand, then I do not confront instead I just cut people out. I have no time or energy for games (refer to my post “Those who anger you…”), and the fact that they are playing them just leads me to believe that any sort of interaction will lead to conflict and drama. So I avoid it in every way that I can.

I have plenty of friends and from all areas of my life, I have the ones that have not caused me any drama and not given me any grief, any misunderstandings we have had we cleared them up in a timely fashion and actually were able to grow our friendship based on them. I hope that they are still around because they value my forward approach and respect me enough to return it.

I strongly believe that when it comes to friendships each has a purpose in your life to guide you through, as you relate to people in different ways. Every friendship is to be valued individually and it is important to remember quality over quantity. Be a good friend and you will have good friends, open, honest, and trustworthy. NO GAMES!!